Thursday, January 16, 2014

On Permanency

We found out a little bit about the kids' case this morning. Which is to say we found out not very much. Which is to say we still have no idea where this case is going. Which is to say we are EIGHT months into what should be a twelve month process and little progress has been made.

All I can think right now is: Any gain will be a loss.

If they return to their family, they lose security and safety.
If a dad steps forward for one, they lose each other.
If they move on to extended family, they lose familiarity.
If they stay here, they lose knowing their birth family on top of already losing the safe and happy place in a birth family everyone should have.

Any gain will be a loss.

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